Guest Post: The Trouble With Worrying

To one degree or another, we all experience bouts of worry. This reaction can manifest in a variety of ways but physical reactions are fairly common. Whether it’s an unsettled stomach, a racing heart or a scattered thought process, we have all felt the negative effects of worry at one time or another.

As human beings we have an amazing ability to think beyond the here and now. We anticipate future events, whether real or perceived, and feel the need to address every intrusive thought as it enters our awareness. We cogitate over others’ opinions of us and assume we know exactly what it is they’ll think of our appearance or behaviour.

The fact that we’re able to think about other minds is reflective of our evolutionary advancement. Yet the worry of what others will make of our choices can be all-consuming. Do evening maxi dresses suit your silhouette or will you be considered frumpy and unfashionable? Will you be warmly welcomed at the work party or faced with a frosty reception? These concerns may be trivial, but cumulatively they’ll render even the most self-assured a nervous wreck and this can have negative impacts on other areas of our lives.

Perhaps one way of unravelling those trivial concerns that may eventually constitute your come-uppance is by breaking them down and getting back to basics. Simply consider whether you feel comfortable or uncomfortable, whether you like something or you don’t. This could well be one way of trying to nuke all those nasty niggles. Basic it may be, but simplistic considerations about your needs will certainly leave no room for rumination or anxiety-inducing anticipation of all the possible ills that may occur.

Of course, you’re still likely to wonder what’s going to happen next. So go with the flow and if what occurs makes you feel good, then go with it. If not, alter your position and keep doing so until you feel comfortable again; physically as well as metaphorically speaking.

This behavioural scenario leaves little room for the thousands of thoughts that leave you feeling anxious, guilty, ashamed or overwhelmed. Of course, all of these feelings are perfectly natural and are what make us human but that doesn’t mean you should indulge them too often. The secret is to try and maintain a balance. Whilst worries and concerns cannot be banished altogether, it is important to allay them when possible and embrace the realisation that others’ perceptions of you are always subordinate to your own opinion of yourself.

*This post was written and sponsored by Cotton Traders at Isme*

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